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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Hey Sexist Tabloids, Taylor Swift's Dating Habits Are Perfectly Reasonable

Posted By on Wed, Jan 30, 2013 at 9:10 AM


As you may have heard, Taylor Swift broke up with her latest fling -- One Direction's Harry Styles -- a few weeks ago. Tabloids and gossip magazines have been having a field day with this ever since. Timelines of her boyfriends, reports of the fight that allegedly caused Swift to bail on Styles mid-vacation, and, worst of all, a lot of deep analysis about why Taylor Swift just cannot hold down a relationship. Some articles have painted her as a shameless harpy, using and discarding men to drum up material for her music. Some have pondered why poor, sad, pathetic Taylor just can't keep a man. And some have decided to dish out advice where she never freakin' asked for it, thank you very much.

Now, we're not saying that Taylor Swift plays down her relationships or makes any attempt to keep them on the DL. It's a much-documented fact that she uses her break-ups for song material.

This one's apparently about Joe Jonas:

This one's apparently about John Mayer:

You get the idea...

So we understand full well that Swift opens herself up to tabloid speculation about her boyfriends. We're not objecting to media coverage about who she's dating and whether or not they just broke up, because she's clearly quite happy to be photographed with a boyfriend in public whenever she has one.

What does fill us with intense rage, however, are the stark double standards in media coverage of male serial-daters versus female serial-daters like Swift. In almost all the coverage we've ever seen about Swift's break-ups, she's painted as either a moody bitch, a jealous baby, a conniving whore, or a sad little singleton who can't keep a boyfriend -- and it's all her own fault.

When was the last time you saw a male musician portrayed as such a pathetic whore-bag for dating a lot of hot people? Sure, heaps of derision were thrown at John Mayer for being a womanizer, but he's never portrayed as a pathetic victim -- that's reserved for the women he dates (more double standards). And, if you think about it, the press didn't even really turn on him until he did that Playboy interview about his "white supremacist" penis. (Which was some next-level crazy shit.)

Where do people get off portraying Taylor Swift as a sad and lonely victim, while at the same time reporting that she's the one who seems to do most of the dumping? It makes absolutely no sense -- and that's before we even get to the part where she very pointedly tells her exes where to go, in song form. (We don't think anyone's laboring under the assumption that the Jake Gyllenhaal lookalike in the video for "We Are Never, Ever Getting Back Together" was an accident.)

The truth of the matter is, Taylor Swift is an extraordinarily successful 23-year-old woman with a heap of talent and not a small amount of beauty. If she dates a lot of dudes, it's because she's an extraordinarily successful 23-year-old woman with a heap of talent and not a small amount of beauty! If she writes a sad song after a break-up, it's because everyone is sad for five minutes after a break-up (this is how we know Taylor Swift is a real girl and not a conniving harpy). But these break-ups are clearly not devastating her life by any stretch of the imagination, either, or she wouldn't be able to dust herself off and move onto the next hot guy so quickly.

Why is someone like Harry Styles simply portrayed as a womanizer, when Taylor Swift is portrayed as a desperate girl, lurching sadly from one boy to the next, in search of her one true love? It's all about the genitals, folks. If men date a lot of beautiful women, they're having fun; if women do it, it's because they are somehow defective. It is absolutely mind-blowing in 2013 that this type of insanely unfair sexism still exists. The fact that it is rarely even acknowledged merely makes matters worse.

How many 23-year-old women do you know who are clambering all over themselves trying to find a husband to settle down with? We're going to hazard a guess and say: zero. So why would Taylor Swift be doing so? She has a lot of famous people privileges and she's taking advantage of every last one of them. She works hard -- why the hell shouldn't she have a little fun? Why shouldn't she have a new, handsome boyfriend every two months?

So, the world needs to back off Taylor Swift's love life. This stuff isn't complicated. Just like a lot of other young women, she's a serial-dater -- which makes her neither slutty, nor desperate. If the labels aren't being applied to male musicians, we have no right to pin them on the female ones who behave the same way. Enough of this nonsense.

-- @Raemondjjjj

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