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Monday, June 27, 2016

Confessions of a 42-Year-Old Pride Virgin

Posted By on Mon, Jun 27, 2016 at 1:15 PM

I was born in San Francisco, but it took me 42 years to go to the Pride Parade. That’s really because I am small and have big claustrophobic tendencies, which is ironic since I’ve reviewed arena concerts and festivals professionally for decades. When I’m off the clock, though, I’m usually not trying to be in a gargantuan group of people.

But then, straight out of the blue, Trojan brand condoms invited me to ride on their float this year. I still wasn’t sure I wanted to go, but floating by people instead of getting squished among them did sound like the ideal way to experience the event. I took my decision to Facebook, where it was instantly made for me.

“Let’s rock the cock float!” my friends said.

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Thursday, January 17, 2013

San Francisco Voted Ultimate "Pride City" by Gay Travelers

Posted By on Thu, Jan 17, 2013 at 10:30 AM


San Francisco might not be gay enough for Oakland, but when it comes to travel destinations, S.F. is still No. 1 in the ol' U.S. of Gay.

GayCities, the world's largest LGBT community-driven city guide, recently announced the winners in its annual Best of GayCities 2012, and San Francisco nabbed not one but two distinctions.

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Monday, January 7, 2013

11 Fun Facts You Didn't Know About Bisexuals

Posted By on Mon, Jan 7, 2013 at 6:30 AM

Madonna and Britney Spears give America a collective stiffy with their MTV Awards kiss (see "gay for pay" below)
  • Madonna and Britney Spears give America a collective stiffy with their MTV Awards kiss (see "gay for pay" below)

Bisexuality is the misunderstood goth teenager of the sex world. So many false assumptions and stereotypes are attributed to bisexuality, and it's often dismissed as "indecision," "in denial," or "college." With that in mind, here are 10 fun facts to shed light on the topic, to impress your friends at parties, or to convince that hot on-the-fence person to come home with you.

See also:

10 Fun Facts You Didn't Know About Lesbians

Even off the clock, a majority of female porn stars identify as bisexual

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Thursday, December 27, 2012

Femmepire Records: Femme-on-Femme and Conspicuous Rainbow Flags

Posted By on Thu, Dec 27, 2012 at 7:30 AM


Femmepire Records is an interview series on femme identity. Click here for the elevator pitch and first interview.

Here's Louise, a writer and shelver at the public library.

If you don't have a definition of "femme," what do you think of Google's: "A lesbian or a male homosexual who takes a traditionally feminine sexual role."

I think I would be hard-pressed to define it any better. I was going to be snarky and say "the opposite of butch."

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Femmepire Records: Can Straight Women Be "Femme?"

Femmepire Records: Celeste Chan on Unapologetic, Riotous Femmedom

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Friday, November 2, 2012

Making Waves: outLoud Radio Celebrates 10 Years of Helping LGBTQ Youth

Posted By on Fri, Nov 2, 2012 at 11:00 AM


I've often wondered what happened to Justin, the person who trained me in the fine art of flipping burgers at the McDonald's I worked at in high school. At first Justin seemed like any other high school kid -- we bonded over toasting buns, "running the bin," and daydreams of all the horrible things we could do to your milkshake. But over the course of a year, Justin changed a bit. He started out with, "I think I accidentally went on a date with this guy," then moved on to, "I'm definitely dating this guy," and eventually it became, "Okay, I think I'm gay, but don't tell anyone."

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Biden: Trans Discrimination Is a "Civil Rights Issue of Our Time"

Remembering Slain Transgender Teen Gwen Araujo

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Friday, October 12, 2012

Transverse: Coming Out Day and the Castro's Trans-Free Flag Pole

Posted By on Fri, Oct 12, 2012 at 10:30 AM

  • Tim Wagner

Yesterday was National Coming Out day, an interesting time for those of us T's tacked onto that LG(B) monolith. On one hand, being "out" as a trans man is, for me, a crucial aspect of my life (and career). On the other, I'm well aware that plenty of trans people are unable to safely be "out" or are not interested in public disclosure. The lack of discussion outside trans communities around the way trans folks trouble the notion of "pride" struck me this year in ways it hasn't before. As the guys at Original Plumbing noted on their Tumblr: "Happy National Coming Out Day. Only you can decide when it's time, if ever, to 'come out.' "

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Transverse: National Geographic Attempts Trans Issues on Taboo , Fails

Transverse: Meet B. Dolan, Hip-Hop's Burliest, Straight-Shooting LGBT Ally

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Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Gay People Love Vodka (Infographic)

Posted By on Wed, Oct 3, 2012 at 7:30 AM


Today, in news that both shocks and delights us, (no, it's not calming manatees again) comes an infographic from Target 10 on the eating, drinking, and nightlife habits of queers in comparison to straight men and women. Here are some of the highlights.

Queer people drink every kind of liquor (from cordials to sparkling wines to whiskey) more than their straight counterparts, except when it comes to beer (straight men drank beer 61 percent of the time, lesbians 59 percent, gay men 43 percent, and straight women only when watching Bravo. Just kidding, it's actually 34 percent). Also learned: The stereotype is true, lesbians do really love beer more than any other adult beverage (59 percent), followed by wine (51 percent), and then vodka (44 percent). For gay men, the top three beverages of choice were wine (47 percent), vodka (45 percent), and then beer (43 percent).

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Here's San Francisco's Version of American Patriotism

10 Fun Facts You Didn't Know About Lesbians

Lesbians too Busy Saving Everything to Participate in Studies

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Friday, September 28, 2012

Site Records All the Casual Homophobia on Twitter, Depresses Us Immensely

Posted By on Fri, Sep 28, 2012 at 10:58 AM


If you want to depress yourself on this rainy Friday, we'd suggest you visit the new website,, which chronicles the horrific and prolific use of homophobia that exists on social media websites.

A barrage of casually cruel tweets rushes swiftly by each moment on the site, which was created by the University of Alberta's Institute for Sexual Minority Studies and Services (iSMSS). According to the press release, the website is supposed to serve as a "social mirror" that captures and documents the amount of homophobic language that occurs every moment of every day. Since July 5, "Faggot" has been tweeted 2.4 million times, "So Gay" 800,000 times, "No Homo" 800,000 times and "Dyke" 300,000 times.

See also, these non-depressing posts:

10 fun facts you didn't know about lesbians

The best way to deal with racist Facebook comments

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Monday, September 24, 2012

2012 Folsom Street Fair Photos: The Safe-For-Work Edition!

Posted By on Mon, Sep 24, 2012 at 12:36 PM

  • All photos by Gil Reigo Jr. for SF Weekly
Miss the Folsom Street Fair over the weekend but still have a hankering for leather and sexually wild BDSM action? Of course you do! Alas, you're at work, stuck at a cubicle with your boss's stare cutting right through you. Or perhaps its the IT guy -- who secretly hates everyone -- just waiting for you to slip up. Either way, enjoy these perfectly PG photos from  Folsom. If you're giving zero fucks about your boss or your IT guy, go on and enjoy the NSFW Folsom Street Fair slideshow.

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- 2012 Folsom Street Fair Photos
- 2011 Folsom Street Fair Photos
- 2010 Folsom Street Fair Photos
- 2009 Folsom Street Fair Photos
- 2008 Folsom Street Fair Photos

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Monday, September 10, 2012

Femmepire Records: Interview with Kelly

Posted By on Mon, Sep 10, 2012 at 9:30 AM

  • Kelly

Femmepire Records is a new series of interviews with queer people of the femme(inine) persuasion. In the queer community, femmes often get lost or subsumed or ignored because femininity connotes straightness, unlike more masculine or androgynous presentations of gender, which are typically read as queer. Being femme doesn't necessarily mean "lesbian." Femmes are diverse, and can be gay, bisexual, lesbian, trans, genderqueer, and so on, though, of course, not all feminine-appearing people identify as femme.

Femmepire Records is about busting myths and stereotypes and talk that says femmes are hiding behind straight privilege. It's about community and about being seen, not just for dating and sex purposes, but I'd be lying if I said that wasn't partially what prompted my rage frustration renewed interest in this topic. What it's not about, is pitting people against each other or making any kind of definitive statements about femme-ness. It's about bettering the dialogue and each other's understandings of gender, sex, and identity. It's about gaydar, how we survive, and how we find each other, which is still incredibly difficult, even in the big glitter meccas like San Francisco.

So without further ado, here's Kelly.

In a few words, define femme.

To me, femme is about fucking with femininity. Femme is taking the things that mainstream or dominant culture deems feminine and playing with them, being tongue-in-cheek feminine. Femme is about playing with the appearance, attitude, desire, and behavior that mainstream society ascribes to the genuine or ideal woman.

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