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Wednesday, March 4, 2015

San Francisco Woman Uses a Mural To Find a Boyfriend

Posted By on Wed, Mar 4, 2015 at 10:30 AM

The mural before its demise - MATTHEW WYNE
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These days, when a new dating app is popping up faster than you can swipe left, there seems to be as many people hating on online dating as there are doing it.

One single 27-year-old San Franciscan came up with a slightly more personal way to meet potentially dateable strangers — she asked a friend of a friend to paint a mural to help her look for a boyfriend.

Located on Haight and Pierce Streets, the mural was painted on a construction wall and listed some of the qualities the bachelorette in question is looking for in a significant other (“someone to cuddle and rant with,” “someone who will let me eat the last Cheez-it.”)

The mural also featured the Mystery Bachelorette’s website and phone number, but not her name or her picture.

“She wants to remain anonymous so people call her because of the messages,” says the mural artist, Matthew Wyne, in the video.

Wyne, a graphic designer, typically does advertising work for agencies, and hadn’t done anything like this project before, but says that it was “so much fun.”

“I was so excited to be able to use letters to help connect people,” says Wyne.

The mural took three weeks to paint and was finished by November 2014.

“There was a period when we were working on this mural and I was not sleeping," says Wyne. "I was terrified every night I would come back in the morning and it would be tagged up and all my hard work would be for naught."

After the mural had been up for three months, that’s exactly what happened. When Wyne and his team first started the mural, they painted the construction wall black before adding the letters, and the black was tagged over several times, but never more than they could fix. The last time the mural got tagged, however, it was unsalvageable.

“It would have been more than we could do to paint back over it,” says Wyne, “but this mural got to have a good life.”

Before the mural was created, the Mystery Bachelorette had been putting up flyers listing her phone number and the qualities she was looking for. She was getting some responses, but since the mural was finished and the video was released, she has been getting many more phone calls and consequent dates, but hasn't yet found The One.

“People who have seen the video are much more thoughtful, more conscientious. That was eye opening to me,” says Wyne. “I’m wondering if that’s because if you just see a mural you’re not really sure what’s going on, but once people have seen the video they know it’s a real project, and a real person behind it.”

According to Wyne, the Mystery Bachelorette has never tried online dating, and has no interest in it.

“She wouldn’t do it,” says Wyne. “She wouldn’t even try it. It just didn’t feel right to her.”

The mural might be gone, but the Mystery Bachelorette is still looking. Aside from finding someone to cuddle and eat Cheez-Its with, Wyne says the Bachelorette’s other goal with this project was to get people thinking about what they are looking for, either in their next relationship, or in their life in general, or in this crazy city we call home.

“When people allow themselves to open up and be vulnerable, that’s really magical,” says Wyne. “That connects people, it makes community stronger. It’s spurred me to ask myself how I can create that more with my work.”

So, what are you looking for?

Check out the video below.

Looking For You from Matthew Wyne on Vimeo.

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