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Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Survey Says: Texting is the Worst Thing You Can Do on a First Date

Posted By on Tue, Feb 10, 2015 at 9:52 AM

The top ten worst things you can do on a first date, according to Tawkify users. - TAWKIFY
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  • The top ten worst things you can do on a first date, according to Tawkify users.

What do you think are the absolute worst things someone can do on a first date? Is it text? Not offering to pay the bill? Talking about an ex? The matchmaking service Tawkify conducted a survey of its users to determine the "Top Ten Most Common Faux Pas On First Dates" (see above).

According to the list, the number one First Date No-No is texting while on the date — with “not paying for drinks or dinner” being the second and "talking about exes" coming in at third.

A whopping 95 percent of the Tawkify users surveyed said that they feel taking phone calls or texting while on a first date is unacceptable. “People don’t have enough time as it is," Kenneth Shaw, the CEO of Tawkify, says of the importance of not texting during a first date. "If you’re on a date, [your date] wants you to be present.” 

Of First Date No-No number two, Shaw says that Tawkify customers have reported being turned off if their date didn’t at least offer to pay or split the bill.

“With chivalry, both parties have to be in it to make it work,” Shaw adds — and 75 percent of people surveyed agree.

Shaw also emphasizes that talking about past flings is another big no-no: “It kills the conversation."

According to Tawkify's survey, 72 percent of their users had a story about their date incessantly talking about exes or past dates. We know everyone gets a little nervous on a first date, which might lead to saying some stupid shit, but don't go into the past-date-ex zone. 

Although “talking about work” is ranked at number 10, Shaw says he thinks refraining from work-related conversation is equally important as being chivalrous and not reminiscing on old flames.

“No one should ever be sitting down for drinks and dinner on a date and have it end up being an interview,” says Shaw. “Everyone is so busy these days. When they finally have time to go on a date, they don’t want another thing on their shoulders — they want something to look forward to.”

Founded in 2012, Tawkify is based in New York and San Francisco, and plans to expand to major cities this year, as an alternative to online dating, Tawkify uses matchmakers to set people up on dates, he says it "combines a human element into data play." 

"People think online dating is work. You really have to dedicate a lot of time to it," says Shaw. "We're trying to make dating fun again. We want more people to fall in love."

So the next time you're on a date and the person you're with whips out their phone to check their Twitter or post the inevitable "look I'm eating brunch" picture on Instagram, you can calmly tell them that they are performing the number one biggest dating faux pas. Or you can flip the table over and storm out. That must be number 11.
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