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Tuesday, February 3, 2015

That Awkward Moment: When a Tinder Date is Better Than a Real Life Date

Posted By on Tue, Feb 3, 2015 at 9:29 AM

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It's pretty unusual these days to be a single 20 or 30-something and not have (or have had at one point) a Tinder account, but there’s still a stigma surrounding going on a Tinder date. A lot of people seem to feel like they can’t admit to having a Tinder without quickly throwing in a comment about how it’s “just funny to look at” or they “only use it when they’re bored.”

Countless Tinder profiles say “I’ll lie about how we met” in their description. (Along with a song lyric, their height, and their Instagram handle. Has anybody else noticed that almost every Tinder profile lists these things?)

There is less stigma around actually meeting and going on a date with someone from a club or a bar—but just because you meet someone from the real world does not guarantee that he or she is any more cool or fun or interesting than someone from the Internet might be.

Trust me — I know from personal experience.

Two weeks ago, I went on a Tinder date with “Michael.” He was nice and he made me laugh. He also bought me Thai food, which is a plus, and he drove me home, which is another plus. It wasn’t until I got home that I realized I had spent six hours with him and didn't even notice the time passing by. Damn.

In December, I met “Kyle” when I was at a club with friends and I gave him my number when he asked. Last week, Kyle hit me up asking if I wanted to see a show with him. Although our first interaction had been comprised of screaming half-assed small talk over some random DJ’s shitty remix of a Drake song, Kyle seemed nice enough, so I said I’d go to the show with him. Well, that, and also I like live music. Especially if it’s free.

Kyle was awkward, did not understand my sense of humor, and continued to try to make small talk no matter how many times I said it was way too loud and I had no idea what the hell he was saying. (Because I didn’t. Shows are loud.)

When it was over, I took Kyle to get some pizza (taking awkward dudes to get pizza is, apparently, something I end up doing a lot), during which time Kyle straight-up stopped talking completely. He was so eager to talk during the show, when most of what either of us were saying was drowned out by loud, wailing guitars, but once we had silence and could actually have a conversation, he didn’t have anything to say at all. 

After making unreciprocated comments about the show and the pizza, and then asking unanswered questions about what he was doing for the rest of the weekend, I bid Kyle a good night and walked home, thinking that I had just spent five or six hours with him. It wasn’t until I got home that I realized it had only been two.

Tinder: 1, Real World: 0.

Moral of the story: Tinder doesn’t have to be a last resort for desperate people. It can just be a chance to meet interesting people you may not otherwise come across in your daily life.

Plus, without Tinder, you would never know how tall someone claims to be and which Coldplay lyric they apparently identify the most with. And clearly, these are vital pieces of information to know before you embark on any kind of relationship with someone. Clearly.
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