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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Tinder Trouble: How to Not Succeed on Tinder

Posted By on Tue, Jul 22, 2014 at 8:00 AM

Last week, we discussed the delicate and difficult task of talking to potential partners on OkCupid. Slightly less delicate and difficult is talking to people on Tinder. But while OkCupid is more geared towards people looking for relationships, Tinder is largely centered around one-night stands.

However, since OkCupid users have to fill out profiles with information about their likes, dislikes, hobbies, and future goals, the matches will (for better or worse) will likely have something in common with you. With Tinder, all users have to do is provide some pictures, but it can be tough -- the hardest part of creating a Tinder profile is selecting pictures that portray the user in a desirable, but approachable, manner.

Picking the right picture can take all the stress out of figuring out what to say to your Tinder matches -- if your picture is attractive and welcoming enough, matches will be flocking to you as fast as you can swipe right.

Look to the profile pictures of these clearly seasoned Tinder pros to get an idea of the best picture to use to land your next hookup.


Looks like David and Jordan had similar ideas.
  • Looks like David and Jordan had similar ideas.

Smells like a good match
  • Smells like a good match



Or take the example of this group of Tinder experts, who decided to save time and make a joint account.


Once your perfect picture has captured the interest of a match, the next step is to say just the right thing so that you maintain their attention. Here are some Tinder messages we received that may help you out.

First of all, it is important to not be too forward right off the bat.


It's also important to make sure you don't say anything creepy, as this gentleman clearly understands.


Above all, it's pertinent to not be too overbearing.


(And again.)


Happy swiping!

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