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Friday, September 16, 2011

Four Terrible Old Books About Homosexuality, Including 1962's Faggots to Burn

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Someone I Love is Gay

Authors: Anita Worthen and Bob Davies

Date: 1996

Publisher: InterVarsity Press

Tone: Worried and pained, as the authors prep their readers for handling guilt and the possibility of "letting go" -- but still continuing to love -- their "errant" children and spouses. Perhaps this tone is accounted for by the fact that Worthen's own husband is, in her words, "a former homosexual," while her son was -- again, in her words -- "practicing homosexuality." Co-author Davies, meanwhile, admits in the introduction to having felt "drawn to" the "large gay scene" in his hometown, Vancouver, but staying away out of "fear and timidity."

Chapter Titles: When a Friend Says, "I'm Gay"; Guilt: The Continual Crushing Weight; Disclosure: Do I Dare Tell Anyone?; Finding Hope Again: Life After Homosexuality

Representative Quotes:

"Eventually, things fall apart. What does it matter if my house is a mess? a mother will wonder. My son is gay!"(32)
"Here are some symptoms which may indicate that separation is an option to consider:

The gay spouse is spending unaccounted time away from the family.

The gay spouse appears to have given up trying to solve the homosexual problem.

The gay spouse exhibits a pattern of habitual deception." (143)

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Unscientific Assertion:
"Benefits from AIDS: Although it might be hard to believe, there can be some changes for the good that come out of this difficult situation."
Wait, Benefits From AIDS? Seriously?:
"Faced with brevity of life, families may develop a deeper appreciation for each other." (109).
Does the Book Allege a Conspiracy of Homosexuals?: Refreshingly, no.

The Lowdown: The authors instruct readers to offer family members acceptance rather than approval, which is a step forward, I guess, although it's not quite what you expect from Worthen, who claims her husband has successfully grown out of that "destructive lifestyle." Other subjects covered involve coping strategies for visits with gay children and how the most important thing is spending time together -- a belief that flowers into astonishing selfishness in the chapter about AIDS, wherein the authors crow that the process of dying tends to inspire "fresh priorities" and "renewed passion for God."


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