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Wednesday, September 7, 2011

The Sweet Spot: Exploring the Orgasm, Part 1

Posted By on Wed, Sep 7, 2011 at 11:45 AM


Did you know you can determine a woman's orgasmic history just by the way she walks? Well, a few sexologists say they can, according to a 2008 article in Science News. They claim that a swaggering woman "could reflect the free, unblocked energetic flow from the legs through the pelvis to the spine" that's created by regular sexual release. They did not study men. Why? Perhaps because we expect the male orgasm to occur as we expect the sun to rise.

click to enlarge Marilyn Monroe
  • Marilyn Monroe

The female orgasm, however, is the Holy Grail of sexual expression, profoundly desired yet often elusive. Some say Marilyn Monroe went to her death without having one, and the famous 1950s Kinsey report on sexuality found that 36 percent of women in their 20s had never had an orgasm -- a sad state of affairs indeed.

Part of the reason is that the female orgasm largely depends upon that wee bit of tissue and nerve fibers located beneath the skin of the vulva. It's a pesky little thing, this clitoris. Sometimes obvious and erect, it also can seem to disappear as it moves about and often changes it's mind. Many a vulvic explorer has been frustrated trying to find just the right rhythm, pressure, and position to finesse that little button into paroxysms of pleasure.

click to enlarge Kinsey report Sing-a-long Album
  • Kinsey report Sing-a-long Album

In 1612, Jaques Duval wrote that the clitoris is "the spur of female pleasure, the female rod and the scorner of men; and women who will admit their lewdness call it their guade mihi (great joy)."

I have never considered my clitoris a scorner of men or women, though certainly I am sure a few of them felt that way. But this fickleness is also what leads to that most marvelous of expressions: the multiple orgasm. Because the clitoris, unlike the penis, does not have a distinct, compressible plexus.

What? Thanks to Natalie Angier and her Pulitzer Prize-winning book Woman: An Intimate Geography, I can explain. The clitoris does not hold on to the blood that infuses the genital area during arousal. In short, women do not get erections. Instead, the clitoris allows for multiple releases and spasms. Fun!

click to enlarge Woman; An Intimate geography by Natalie Angier
  • Woman; An Intimate geography by Natalie Angier

So with all this joy at our fingertips why is it that so many women, still, fake their orgasms with a partner? Sixty-seven percent, to be exact, still do. I did, for years and years, despite regular bouts of my own lewdness. I thought it was just supposed to happen through penetration alone. Silly me. But thanks to a savvy Scotsman and a few good books, I realized my error and have been having a grand time ever since, especially as I grow older. And funnily enough, The Kinsey report confirms this. It found that older women were more regularly orgasmic.

Aron Shafran agrees. She did have orgasms in her early 20s, but she says, "The crazy good ones sure came a little later, and keep getting better!"So it seems that there some things that can get better with age besides cheese and wine. Is maturity sexy? Hell yes.

Stay tuned next week for more fun orgasm facts.

The Sweet Spot is a blog column about alternative sexuality by Ginger Murray who is also the editor of Whore! magazine. Check back next week for more.

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