So, after two years and one month of speculation, and thanks to Maer Roshan's new e-book, Courtney Comes Clean, we just got a few steps closer to finding out why Frances Bean Cobain filed a temporary restraining order against her own mother, Courtney Love.
According to legal statements uncovered in the book, Frances -- during the
court case that ultimately granted Kurt Cobain's mother and sister
custody of the then-17-year-old -- claimed her mother had a prescription
drug problem, exhibited threatening behavior in front of her (including threatening to burn someone's house down) and, oh god, was responsible for the deaths of two of Frances' pets. Sounds like it's Mommie Dearest on
crack prescription medications: "She basically exists now on... Xanax, Adderall, Sonata and Abilify, sugar and cigarettes," Frances told the court, according to the book.
Back in November, we wondered whether Courtney Love was mentally ill and suggested that treating her with compassion might be more constructive than continuing to ridicule her. But that was before we knew about the dog that overdosed on her prescription pills and the cat that died, Hoarders-style, after apparently "getting tangled" in piles of Loves's fabric and boxes. It's much harder to feel compassion for a person who seems to have none. Plus, anyone responsible for the death of an animal (or multiple animals) should be prosecuted for animal cruelty, especially when there are court papers documenting such incidents.
To make matters worse, it appears that the pets weren't the only ones being neglected to the point of mortal danger. Frances also told the court: "She often falls asleep in her bed while she is smoking, and I am
constantly worried that she will start a fire (which she has done at
least three times) that will threaten our lives." Frances also noted: "She slams doors, breaks things, stomps around the hotel or apartment, and spends hours on the phone, yelling." Well, that sounds just peachy.
Can we just take a moment to be awe-struck by how responsible, sane, and together Frances Bean Cobain seems to be? Often in family situations where the parents are dysfunctional or addicts, children take on the adult role as part of a survival instinct. But most of those kids aren't the offspring of Kurt Cobain. Most of those kids don't have access to the kind of money that Frances does. How easy would it have been for her to go on a "woah-is-me" bender of Lyndsey Lohan proportions and damn it all to hell? How easy would it have been to have acted out, based alone on the way her father died? How easy would it have been to also lapse into addiction and self-abuse? The bravery, intelligence, will and focus of this teenage girl is, frankly, amazing.