On paper, dating someone who is already your roommate sounds great! Every morning, every meal, every evening, every waking second you spend at home is spent with your boyfriend or girlfriend! You’re with your significant other all the time!
But the reality of such a living situation is much less ideal — every
waking second you spend at home is spent with your boyfriend or girlfriend. You’re with your significant other ALL. THE. TIME.
Don’t get us wrong, being in a relationship with your roommate can definitely have some upsides. You don’t have to take a Lyft to get to and from your hookup’s house, because your and your “hookup” share the same house. You don’t have to worry about who is spending the night at whose house, because again, you share the same house. And you don’t have to worry about either of you being too busy with work or school to spend time together, because even if your significant other is studying or working all day, you’ll see them when they come home.
But dating your roommate can also have some serious downsides.
When you get in a fight with your boyfriend or girlfriend and need some time to cool off, they’ll still be there. If you leave the house to clear your head after a fight, they’re still there when you get back. If you just really feel like being alone and putting on a tutu and lip synching to old Britney Spears songs, they’re still there. Well, maybe that last one is just us.
Here’s how to avoid the aforementioned awkward situations: If you’re interviewing potential roommates and think you might want one of them as more than a roommate
, that’s probably a sign you should continue your roommate search and maybe ask the attractive roommate candidate to get drinks instead. “We met at a roommate interview” is a much better story to tell than “we broke up because we tried to date while living together,” isn’t it?
What do getting too drunk at a street fair the day before work, giving your number to a rando at the bar and then regretting it when they text you all the time, and dating your roommate have in common? If you guessed “mistakes people make in their 20s,” you are correct. The first two are probably going to happen anyway (regardless of what anyone tells you) so we’re here to talk about the third one.